The Grossnickle Family

Robert, Danelle, Leavi, Jaydn, Kole and Kyzen

Wednesday, February 6, 2008

The monotony of the life of a stay at home mom

Sometimes I think to myself "Self now why is it that you can't do it all?'' I constantly get caught up in the dull drum of cleaning the house and doing laundry. I think if I say "You would not believe how much laundry I have!" One more time ,to anyone, I am going to loose it....seriously.

It is interesting how a person can have the ultimate spiritual experience one day( that awesome birth is the one I am referring to) and 4 days later can't pull themselves out of bed to clean the house...AGAIN. I think that a good account of a day in my life would consist of : driving until my bum gets numb, bending over 500 times to pick up after everyone in my home, cooking, cleaning, refereeing, coaching, tutoring, counseling, writing, serving, shopping(well almost everyday...YIKES?)organizing, exercising, studying, praying, and (here come the good ones) screaming, crying, smiling, laughing, talking, listening, sleeping, yelling again to no one in particular... ( I know I need counseling) trying to talk rationally, hiding in my closet,hunting down who didn't flush the toilet, driving some more, checking homework, cooking again, cleaning again....and so on....then plop! Down on the bed to "escape" from the real world and watch a movie or show....my what I like to call " time to decompress", which does include reading if I am in the mood. All of this on a day to day basis...until... the day that I wake up and say " I am going back to bed" and I stay there until I pick up the kids(This is a monthly indulgence that, frankly, I love!) I love to indulge in activities ranging from watching movies to reading to back to watching movies...not very interesting....but necessary for my survival and the re-booting of my brain.

So after the "day off" (As Robert likes to refer to it as) I feel refreshed and ready to conquer the world, oh and that mountainous pile of laundry, again. I fell like I can get it all done and keep it up and I tell myself " Okay now that you have it all under "control"(Yes, this is a control freak you are listening to) keep it that way, why don't you?

Here's how the next few days go: "Kids pick it up! What do you think there is a magical fairy that walks around and cleans up after you? Right, There is not, so get to it! Who's shoes are these? And everyone come down here for a meeting...Who didn't flush that toilet????AGAIN???? What will your wife-to-be think when you are "courting her" and you don't flush the toilet? Ya...That is what I am talking about. Hang your backpacks up...Is there an echo in here because I think I just said that yesterday? Are your rooms clean? Take the garbage out, laundry need to be taken downstairs too. Who has dishes today? Thank you Jaydn! Homework, did you read twenty minutes yet Bob? Wait ...hold the phones...time to get back into the car and take Kole to scouts(Or whatever the occasion is) . Drink your veggie juice, no matter how gross you think it is..it is good for you and eat dinner, time to brush your teeth, read scriptures, have family prayer and get in bed...Why is your light still on? GO TO BED! By the way I love you guys.....I SAID GO TO SLEEP...NO MORE TALKING !!!

Transition into the next normal week or so of keeping up on life and kids and things, pretty calm...and then start all over again ( with or without the incredible spiritual experience to kick it off with, hopefully with?)

Welcome to the Earth School of hard Knox folks....are you up to the task? Sure hope I am.

Seriously, if it were not for faith,hope and love I wouldn't last a day in this life. I am thankful for the chance to learn about this! Really, I am !

4 comments:

Ju said...

Do you ever wonder what your life would be like if you had 3 weeks without children? What you would do with all that time? Would you get things done or would you bask in the alone time and do nothing? Luckily we will never have to find out :o)
"Being a mother is learning about the strengths you didn't know you had... and dealing with fears you didn't know existed."

Rae said...

You think you want all that time, and maybe you do for a couple of weeks but just wait! When Trey started High School everything changed. I thought I was NEVER going to be without kids (lets face it I have had at least one child to take care of the majority of my life). Then he started driving (oh the joys of having children spread apart in age!!!) and being responsible for himself and even shared in some of the responsibilities of helping w/his sisters. Now he's off at college and Syd will be driving next year and in High School. I feel her slipping out of my grasp even as we speak. She is all ready such a responsible young woman in just a few short years she too will be leaving home. Kel will be in JR High then. Sounds like the good life but when you have had chaos for such a long time it's hard to fill your days up with whatever you thought you wanted to do before your family grew up. Yes it's true that I have school to occupy my time and the youngest one gives me a run for my money. There are still those days that I wonder what will I truely do when they are all gone? I am sure that when the last one leaves it will be just in time for me to be a Grandmother and a new chapter will begin.

For you, you have your children close in age so when Leavi heads off into the world Jaydn will follow shortly after her and so and so. I know you will miss these chaotic days. Blessing where you find them?

Anonymous said...

So nice to hear about!!

Anonymous said...

so nice to hear about!